Dear Kate and Wills
Congratulations on baby number 3, we have quite a bit in common Kate so I thought I’d share my experience. Like you I have three children but they are a bit older than yours so I thought you might like to hear what happens as they get older. Another similarity is the HG, I had severe sickness with my girls. Third time round I knew it was coming and vomited non stop. I took no messing from my GP this time and insisted on injections at an earlier point. So take all the meds as soon as you can is my advice.
Baby number 3 has been the magic number for me and I think my house always wanted three children. I still think I could have managed a fourth but only if I had less of a gap between them. My baby days are definately over now. However there are some advantages and disadvantages to having baby number 3, here are my observations.
Advantage: Baby number three slots in quite easily. Mine slept better and was less fussy. This was because I had to make dinner, or help with reading after school. Therefore number three was often uncermonioussly dumped in her moses basket whilst I got on with parenting the other two. Erin is still a very easy and placid child as a result.
Disadvantage: Car Seats are really awkward, fitting three in the standard car is like a game of sardines. We pack them in tight and breathe in a bit. The same now when we go away. They all moan about who is sitting in the middle. These days it needs to be Erin on the side because she is still in a carseat and then the teeangers fight it out. Both are tall and block my view at times. More recently it has been me, mum, relagated to the back as I am the shortest!
Advantage: Like you I had a girl and boy already so it was not a gender thing. I just wanted a third! Also I made sure I enjoyed those early days more too as I didn’t sweat about the small things. I had an inner confidence and that made everything easier.
Disdavantage: Holidays are so expensive and we need larger accomodation than a standard room. There are not many that have large family rooms. It means we pay a premium for holidays. We also struggle if needing a hotel for one night as we have to pay for two rooms. Mind you I guess you don’t stay at premier inns too often.
Advantage: You may worry about pushing your luck as you think’ I have had two healthy children already should I chance it’. But do you know what, even if that third did have any health needs you manage. Erin was diagnosed with DDH (read about the signs and symptoms of Hip Dysplasia) and she has taught me I am stronger than I know. That our family will pull together even more when we need to. That the saying as long as its healthy – is a stupid comment because not all babies are born healthy and you don’t ever love them less for it!
Disadvantage: Pre packed food, you know those days when work is busy and you just want to throw a meal in the oven rather than cook from scratch. Well prepacked food often comes in fours. Four chicken breasts in the pack, four servings in that pasta meal. When there is five it is a pain. You either squeeze five out by giving the smallest a little off everyones plate rather than giving them a whole portion. Alternatively being mum you go without and eat a microwaved jacket potato instead.
Advantage: You will never regret the children you have only the children you don’t.
So Kate, I get why you are putting yourself through hyperemesis gravidarum once more. It will be worthh it in the end and three really is a gift. Congratulations from me.
Best Regards Emma