Having worked with young people, mostly teenagers for pretty much all my adult life I am not fazed by much. It has always made me smile that teenagers talk freely in front of their teachers like they wouldn’t to their parents. This means that I have heard a lot including the antics at drunken parties, underage sex, friendship fallouts, car accidents (that have been hidden from parents), puberty in boys, future plans the lot. There is not much you don’t see or hear as a sixth form teacher. Yet nothing much has prepared me for having my own manchild. Here are 7 Crucial Signs of Puberty in Boys Today.
My boy isn’t often on the blog, quieter than his sisters and much more private. Which is something I have always respected. Many who read my blogs could be forgiven for forgetting I have this gorgeous boy nestled among the girls. Others have on occasion, asked why he doesn’t feature much. Some have even joked I obviously prefer the girls. The truth is much simpler I respect that he doesn’t like to be center of attention. I wrote about him being an introvert and what it means recently.
However this post is mostly about him, but the message is wider and relevant, which is why I’m sharing it. This post is talking about puberty in boys. What to look out for and what to expect as your boy hits puberty.
My boy became a man much faster than I had anticipated and puberty was a bit of a shock to me. He was shaving and talking an octave lower all before he became a teenager. With girls, I think you get more clued up on puberty. There is the whole period’s chat and supplies are bought and stored ready for that stage. With boys, it is much easier to ignore that puberty will happen, and when it hits hard and fast it can be a shock.
7 Crucial Signs of Puberty in Boys
- The signs were there for a while, we went through a period of high emotions. On a few occasions there were raised voices (mine and his) over nothing meaningful and tears flowed. Doors were slammed and I remember retorting that I found this pre-teen stage a challenge. Wake up Emma, this was the beginning of male puberty.
- Clothes were bought and discarded. As soon as I had bought him some new jeans or joggers he was moaning that they fit didn’t fit him. That they were too short. The truth was it was a though his bed was a growbag. Each day he is waking that bit taller. Hence why shorts are brilliant, they don’t get obviously short in such a small time frame!
- He changed shape. Dyl is lazy, always has been. Yes, he plays football each week, but he is the goalkeeper so not exactly the most active on the team. As such he had a bit of a tum. However, that has been replaced by this long-legged, slim thing. I saw him with his top off recently and couldn’t believe the difference. He is also taller than all 5’3 and a half of me.
- Sleep, teenagers are supposed to sleep in, yet he wasn’t even a teen. 12 years old and sleeping the clock round became the norm.
- Growing too fast did cause some issues. Dyl developed both Osgood Schlatters and Severs disease, which isn’t really a disease. Both can happen due to growing rapidly. Basically, the bones grow but not the tendons and ligaments. It makes things a little painful, especially when playing a sport.
- Hair that gets everywhere. Dyl started growing his moustache about 8 months ago. A good six months before he was 13. At first, we laughed, but then I didn’t want to hear that others were laughing at him. For Christmas we popped a razor in his stocking and Boxing Day morning he asked his dad to show him how to shave. All this before his 13th birthday. Since speaking to others I know that many have 15-year-olds not needing to shave yet. However thanks to how we handled it is a non-issue in our house too.
- Acne, one of the not so pleasant side effects of puberty. Boys often have more acne than girls and this has been true for us too. However, using some good products has helped.
These signs of puberty were there to be seen, but it took me a while. It does change things too. Doors are now shut when showering when dressing. He asks me to make hair appointments rather than me tell him he needs a cut. Every so often I catch a glimpse of him and think wow, my baby is now a man. Those shorts he wears, because they fit and the length doesn’t matter, now show hairy legs. It is a bit of a shock for a mum. When in your mind your boy is still your little man it is disconcerting to see a man. It is not a little man standing before you, but a hulk of a man child. He may only be 13 but he looks much older.
Puberty happens and you can’t slow it down, so be prepared, recognise the signs in your boys as well as your girls. It is a big deal for both of them and as parents, we need to be clued up in the signs.
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