One of the essential qualities every parent should try to develop in his/her child is confidence. Every other quality can be developed later on in life, but confidence is one such quality that is needed since the growing up years of a child.
This is because confident children believe in themselves. They know how to put forward their point of views confidently. They are ready to face different situations in life. They know how to set goals and how to achieve them.
Here are five ways to build confidence in your child –
1) Allow your children to take some decisions on their own –
In simple life situations, allow your children or ask your children to take decisions for themselves.
When children take decisions for themselves, they gain confidence. They learn to become independent from a young age.
2) Support their decisions –
This point is related to the first point. Allow your child to take his/her own decisions. And then support his/her decision.
Of course, in serious life situations, you can’t let your child (especially when he is quite young) act arbitrarily. But in simple cases where you know your child won’t be hurt or he/she won’t regret taking a wrong decision, support the decision.
If you would immediately tell them that their decision is wrong (and if this happens again and again), it can lessen their confidence. Therefore, if possible, support your children’s decision and let them continue with it.
3) Ask their opinion –
Again, a very important activity for building your child’s confidence. Make it a habit of asking your child for his/her opinion in matters where possible. The children would feel important. They would like the fact that their opinions matter to the rest of the family members. And this would lead to an increase in their confidence.
4) Allow them to pursue their hobbies/passions –
If your child is around 9-10 years of age, then you must have noticed by now what are his/her hobbies.
It’s essential that you allow them to pursue their hobbies. Do something that would increase their love for their hobbies. For example, if your child is good at sketching, enrol him or her into a sketching class. Or show them some good YouTube sketching videos and ask him/her to try that sketching technique. You can even organise a small exhibition of his/her sketches in your home.
These small steps would have such a significant impact on your child’s confidence. This would boost his/her confidence, and you never know a simple childhood hobby can turn into a lifelong career.
5) Shower them with your love –
An obvious point. When children know that their family, their siblings or their grandparents love them to the moon, they feel confident. They feel empowered. They know that there are people whom they can look up to when needed.
And it’s not enough to keep this to yourself that you love your children. Show them that you love them. Occasionally tell him/her that you are a lovely child and we are lucky to have you. Small gestures like hugging them, show your children that they are important.
All these points are simple ways in which you can build your child’s confidence. This will take time. Confidence can’t be built in a day or two. Therefore, it’s always good to start when they are young. As they will grow, you won’t even have to do any of these purposely. These would become a habit and a part of your personality!