Guilt is an emotion we all experience at some point of time in our lives- whether it is forgetting a friend’s birthday or indulging in a huge slice of chocolate cake and then ditching your diet altogether. Those guilts are okay, but what is not okay is to feel guilty about doing what’s best for you, and if you’re someone who’s struggling with that too, here’s something to help. Read on…
Gratitude can really change your life for the better, but don’t just be grateful for everything that you’ve been given- be grateful about yourself too. Appreciate yourself more often than you usually do- give yourself enough credit and treat yourself just a little bit better. Focus more on your accomplishments and achievements and celebrate them, and don’t let the attitude and opinions of other people matter so much. I have just bought The Happiness Planner to help with this and by clicking my link – you can get £5 off your planner also.
Open Up About Your Needs
One of the simplest steps to avoid feeling guilty about prioritizing yourself is to open up- to friends and family about what makes you happy, and what you truly want from life. If you need some time alone, say it. If you feel that spending some time close to the nature is what revitalises you, say it. Learn to honour and value yourself- because unless you don’t do it, no one else will.
Learning to say ‘no’ is probably one of the hardest things to do, and a lot of us struggle with that even today. We end up spreading ourselves too thin and just can’t say no to anyone, because even if we think of doing it, we end up feeling guilty. If that sounds like you, remember that you can’t be everything to everyone.
If you keep saying yes to things that you don’t want to do, or don’t have to do, you’ll end up losing on time and energy to do things that you actually have to do.
Prioritise the things in your life that you feel you’re struggling with- decide what’s truly important to you and what really makes you happy, and commit yourself to doing more of it. Mentally decide how much and what you’re willing to do and what you can’t- yes it is okay to not be able to do something. You’re human after all!
If that helps, make a list of things you do for yourself and for others on a daily basis, and see what can be eliminated. Doing this will make you realize that there are certain that are okay to be not bothered with, and that you were pressurizing yourself unnecessarily.
Spend Some Time Alone
This one may be last on the list, but it is super duper important too! Make it a point to spend some time alone everyday- even if it is for just 15 minutes. During those 15 minutes, just relax and unwind and don’t stress yourself over the tasks you still have to do. Give yourself these 15 minutes to recharge- we promise you’ll end up feeling loads better afterwards.
Spend Time with Friends
I am a firm believer in taking time to be yourself with friends and this is especially true if you are a parent. I value a couple of weekends away with friends in the year. Whether it is a fun night in London or a mini break abroad where you get to relax in the sun just make sure you pack your sunglasses, EOS lip balm, which come in an array of new holiday limited edition flavours and flip flops. It just gives you time for some fun and relaxation and the opportunity to remember who you are and what you want out of life.
Once you start doing this, you’ll realise that it is important for you to take care of your own needs too, and when you do it, it isn’t something to feel guilty about.